pregnancy_test-001Infertility is such a sensitive subject. And you don’t realize that unless you walk that path. There are so many couples that struggle with infertility. I never imagined that we will have to deal with it and I never knew how hard it is going to be. As a woman, I believed that it is only normal for me to get pregnant without any “extra help”, I thought it is my right. But it doesn’t work that way. God is the only one that decides for each and every one of us when, how and if we are going to have a baby. He is also the one that guides you in the right direction when time comes.  I will make the long story short and leave out many details because it would take forever to write everything down. So here it goes!

After being married for 2 years, we felt like we were ready to make our family whole. 3 more years passed by and nothing happened. Of course I was getting worried that something might be wrong with me or my husband. I remember people asking us if we are planning on having babies. Duh! We SO wanted to have babies, but nobody knew and we didn’t even know what was going on at that time.  Last year at some point Oly went to get checked out and see if he was the problem. He passed all the tests and so I knew…it was me. Still I waited a while, I guess I was scared to hear that something might be wrong with my body.  In November 2012 I had my first visit to an infertility clinic and I found out that I do have a couple of issues that keep me from getting pregnant. It was very emotional, I remember I was crying so hard when I left the office that the cashier from the parking lot looked at me and said ” You obviously are having a very hard day, so go ahead, you don’t have to pay for the parking today!” . I was told I have a condition called Endometriosis (you can Google it to find out exactly what it is) that is very common in women with infertility. But the main problem was my eggs… not enough and poor quality for a woman my age. A healthy woman has about 25% chances of getting pregnant each month, I had 1-3% . Of course I was upset and I would question why why why but soon I realized that my life is not in my hands and God doesn’t make mistakes. So after I told Oly what was going on, we both decided to go ahead and do whatever we can to fight infertility. Even though we were going through something so hard , God has given us the best doctor we could ever have asked for, which was also our friend and our number 1 supporter. So the problem came with the solution attached to it 🙂 At that time nobody knew what we were dealing with, we decided to keep it to ourselves until we had some good news to share.

Now, to make it clear to everybody out there, we did NOT use IVF! These babies are NOT the result of In Vitro Fertilisation! In vitro fertilisation (IVF) is a process by which an egg is fertilised by sperm outside the body: in vitro. IVF is a major treatment for infertility when other methods of assisted reproductive technology have failed. Here is the treatment that I did: I was given medication (Clomid 100mg) to stimulate the ovaries to release eggs. An ovulation kit and ultrasounds were used to determine when ovulation would likely occur. Then, my husband’s sperm was transported via catheter at the very time when ovulation was expected, into my uterus (IUI = intrauterin insemination).  The success rate is around 15-20% per cycle so it is truly amazing that quads were conceived this way.  We went through this process 3 times, the 3rd time worked like a charm and I got pregnant with four babies! It is very unusual to have this result so we feel  4 times blessed and so happy and excited! It was a shock in the beginning because we didn’t even know quadruplets were possible with this kind of treatment so it didn’t cross our mind that it could happen. But it is so obvious to us that this is God’s plan for our life and we’re moving on day by day 100% through faith! These miracles are everything we focus on right now.

I am going to be 18 weeks tomorrow and 2 nights ago I felt the first baby kicks! It was just amazing! I got so emotional 🙂 My mother in law and 2 of my sisters in law were there to witness which made it even more special. I think baby A (Hannah) wanted to play! All the babies are doing great, they are very healthy and about 7 oz.each, that’s about a half a pound each! I didn’t mention yet, but we are having 2 boys and 2 girls, how perfect is that? 🙂 So, at 18 weeks I have 2 pounds worth of baby in my womb! I had to stop working a week ago, sooner than we thought, but it is all for the best of the babies. I am thankful for all the prayers that were lifted for us, because it is all in God’s hands! And it is the safest place to be!


9 thoughts on “Infertility

  1. Welcome to the ranks of quad parents! You are in for an amazing challenge, but a life filled with immense joy and love. God will help you along the way, your faith will be tested and strengthened many times over. Hugs!

  2. Blondy i am super duper happy for you and YOU WILL BE THE BEST MOM FOR THIS KIDS …love u and im looking forward to see your progress and record as much new moments (cuz u know ADA is a camera/recording freak ) :’) …continue to stay positive and “”incredintata in God””” 😉 🙂

    • You are so funny Ada 🙂 i am happy that you are so excited and THANK YOU for everthing that you do for me (us), you have no idea how much every little detail matters! Love u girl!

  3. Draga Lori,
    Asa mult m-am bucurat cand am auzit vestea! Si ce frumos scrii pe blog! I am so excited for you guys! Can’t wait to meet your miracles! Domnul sa va binecuvanteze si sa îți dea in continuare o sarcina cat mai ușoară, sa treacă timpul repede si sa ii vedem pe bebelusi!

  4. I think you should write more about the personal struggle you faced and how you overcame it, when you find out you were pregnant with 4 babies and your doctors thought it’s better for you to reduce your pregnancy, choosing to abort some fetuses, while allowing the others to survive.
    During our struggle, all of us wished we would have had someone to mentor us, someone who could advise us on how to make it through well. Sharing your story you can help/inspire other people who are struggling with similar situations. I admire you for relaying on God’s unlimited power rather than your own limited abilities. Your weaknesses aren’t burdens to be avoided, but opportunities to grow to become the servant God wants you to be. God bless you, my sweet Lory!

    • I am more than happy about the decision we made because we completely trust our God. But I just can’t put out there every detail, it’s too personal. What works for us, might not work for others; we do not judge anyone’s decision. Of course if there comes a time when someone walks this path and wants to know exactly how we handled everything, we’ll be more than happy to share our experience. Thank you for all your kind words! Hugs!

  5. I didn’t mean that you should reveal all the details about yourself.. I understand that there are things too personal to discuss on a blog. I’ve just read some articles about the growing number of women who are pregnant with twins and choose to only abort one unborn child, allowing the other to survive. In other words, these women are having a “half abortion.” I thought of you who are expecting quads..You must be very courageous to keep all four babies!
    I’ve just wanted to emphasize the fact that you can be an inspiration for other mothers-to-be, helping them to make the right decision, to save a life.
    I also don’t want to judge anyone’s decision. We make a decision in our own minds of whether it is ethically justifiable or wrong to decide which unborn child deserves to live and which one deserves to die. Have a blessed day! 😉

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